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Jul 29, 2010

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While perusing the ‘Net for inspiration, I found this article at NecoleBitchie:

I opened my inbox this morning to 1 of at least 10 or so emails I’ve received from “regular girls” with degrees who wondered why celebrities don’t consider them the “pick of the litter”. It left me wondering, why women with so much potential are so hellbent on dating a rapper or a celeb? I’ve come to the conclusion that even though these women have their own, they want to be a part of that lifestyle.

Anyway, we interviewed R&B singer Lyfe Jennings for BitchieLife.com recently and he had some interesting views on why celebrities are settling for the video vixen, stripper, etc versus the regular girl with multiple degrees etc. Peep the letter I received and then his response below:

Jessica wrote:
Hey Ms Necole, I just had a few questions for you… I wonder why celebrity men never date “Regular” girls? It’s like every time I turn on my television I see video vixen and rappers or celebrities with other celebrities. I mean why do men fall for women who has slept around? Or for women who has a name for themselves? I am a very well educated woman who has her stuff together. I pay my bills on time, I have two degrees and I am currently working on my third degree… I have my own house and two cars (which I may add is paid for). I carry myself like a woman is suppose to. I have to admit we have some very nice looking black men in the industry today, but they are not looking for a “Regular” woman. To be honest with you I am not sure what they are looking for, but I do know and feel it’s time for a change. Not all women is looking for a hand-out; I think that is one of the reason why they date other celebrities. I also, hear celebrities say,”I don’t date fans”. They do not date fans, but they will get with a “Groupie”. I’m lost. I just want to know why Celebrities will not give us average a chance? I would love to hear your feedback

Lyfe Jennings Response:

I think that man is just attracted to a woman who is free. She’s just living her life and in connection, she makes him feel free too. You have to understand that before coming into the industry, most cats were just regular dudes who never had a chance to get with someone that’s hot like that. And now they can get these chicks that’s just living her life and is live, she makes him live too.
[But you] should actually be flattered by that. Because you are going to attract who you are. This dude might have a great career but he might not be a great person so he is not going to be attracted to a great woman. The Amber Rose, Kat Stacks, etc.. All that is temporary. But that woman that is working hard every day to provide for herself and her family; mentally, spiritually, intellectually, emotionally… that’s forever! Because them tittays are gonna sag one day. Those tittays are going to be down by your belly button one day and you’re gonna need something else to keep your man.

What I find most interesting about this article, is Lyfe’s assertions that ‘you are what you attract’.  Over the long haul, I suppose, that the people that we choose to align ourselves with are in some way, a reflection of who we are inside. I will also assert that part of the reason that these famous men go for these video vixens is because that is who is around.  We tend to associate ourselves with, and date those who are in closest proximity to us. So, in essence, it just makes sense.
This also makes me wonder; what would I have in common with a rapper? As a woman who holds education in high regard, it makes me laugh to think of myself dating a rapper/entertainer who most likely never even attended or completed college. What would we talk about? Where could we go on dates to? And most importantly, what would my family think of them?
Rehabbers, have you ever dated a famous or ‘aspiring’ person? What was your experience?
Written by: Miss Andi K. on July 29, 2010.
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  • Anonymous

    >I think the problem with either famous or aspiring person is that they simply have different values from the normal 9 to 5er.You know they want the parties, the chicks all that mess, a normal guy just suits them better. They hang out with different types of ppl too , I dated a guy who was pretty out there and I did not get along with his neo-hippy buddies that was a strain on the relationship. They are better off dating "loose" girls like Amber and Kim K …They also have a HUGE ego problem, they just think they deserve a super model with a perfect temper and personality , they cant handle a real chick and cant stand to have someone disagree with them or question them…They are not easy to date I would not recommend it!The glitz and the glamour does not last , better to find an honest guy with a good head on his shoulders.-TruthBeTold

  • Anonymous

    >who on earth wants to date these destroyers of our culture, airheads, manwhores, secretly gay, self absorbed, vapid, egomainiac devil worshipping, good for nothing people? seriously now, hands up. if you are looking for the good life then get yourself an honest business man. NOT A RAPPER/CELEBRITY you could not pay me to date one of them. not. one. gross. can you imagine waking up next to lil'wayne? then spending the day with him? how about weeks? no thank u. i will gladly pass.

  • Andi K., MA

    >^^^I just threw up in my my, a little bit. Lil' Wayne? OMG!!! :-( He looks like everything about him stinks.

  • Anonymous

    >^^^ LOL you ladies go hard.@5:07 so true! They are a disaster , they only good for a good time in your youth if you feel me…but if you want a family then best look for a "normal" guy …

  • Quiana

    >@507 this is so true on what you said.

  • krystal*lyte

    >THIS LADY:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L9anHyP_xR4HAS THE LOVE THEORY ON LOCK!! ITS NOT SO MUCH THE DEGREES, THE HOUSES, THE GETTING, THE HAVING, TRUE LOVE IS GODS PRESENCE BETWEEN TWO PEOPLE AND GODS PRESENCE ALONE AND FEELING ONE WITH YOUR MATE. AND BY 'FREE' I AM ASSUMING COMMON MEANS: "LOOSE" IN THIS CONTEXT BECAUSE ONLY IN TRUTH ARE YOU REALLY FREE. I WOULD HAVE REALLY LIKED FOR HIM TO ELABORATE SOME MORE ON THAT OTHER THAN THAT HE'S SPOT ON FOR THE MOST PART.

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