While perusing the ‘Net for inspiration, I found this article at NecoleBitchie:
I opened my inbox this morning to 1 of at least 10 or so emails I’ve received from “regular girls” with degrees who wondered why celebrities don’t consider them the “pick of the litter”. It left me wondering, why women with so much potential are so hellbent on dating a rapper or a celeb? I’ve come to the conclusion that even though these women have their own, they want to be a part of that lifestyle.
Anyway, we interviewed R&B singer Lyfe Jennings for BitchieLife.com recently and he had some interesting views on why celebrities are settling for the video vixen, stripper, etc versus the regular girl with multiple degrees etc. Peep the letter I received and then his response below:
Hey Ms Necole, I just had a few questions for you… I wonder why celebrity men never date “Regular” girls? It’s like every time I turn on my television I see video vixen and rappers or celebrities with other celebrities. I mean why do men fall for women who has slept around? Or for women who has a name for themselves? I am a very well educated woman who has her stuff together. I pay my bills on time, I have two degrees and I am currently working on my third degree… I have my own house and two cars (which I may add is paid for). I carry myself like a woman is suppose to. I have to admit we have some very nice looking black men in the industry today, but they are not looking for a “Regular” woman. To be honest with you I am not sure what they are looking for, but I do know and feel it’s time for a change. Not all women is looking for a hand-out; I think that is one of the reason why they date other celebrities. I also, hear celebrities say,”I don’t date fans”. They do not date fans, but they will get with a “Groupie”. I’m lost. I just want to know why Celebrities will not give us average a chance? I would love to hear your feedback
Lyfe Jennings Response:
I think that man is just attracted to a woman who is free. She’s just living her life and in connection, she makes him feel free too. You have to understand that before coming into the industry, most cats were just regular dudes who never had a chance to get with someone that’s hot like that. And now they can get these chicks that’s just living her life and is live, she makes him live too.
[But you] should actually be flattered by that. Because you are going to attract who you are. This dude might have a great career but he might not be a great person so he is not going to be attracted to a great woman. The Amber Rose, Kat Stacks, etc.. All that is temporary. But that woman that is working hard every day to provide for herself and her family; mentally, spiritually, intellectually, emotionally… that’s forever! Because them tittays are gonna sag one day. Those tittays are going to be down by your belly button one day and you’re gonna need something else to keep your man.